Anxiety Therapy, NJ

Do you feel tired of the headaches, stomach aches and shortness of breath caused by your anxiety?

Are you sick of the mental exhaustion and fatigue that always seems to accompany your anxiety?

Do you find yourself always nervous that you are going to make a wrong decision?

Do you constantly worry that something bad may happen to you or your loved ones?

Are you wondering if you will ever find relief from your anxiety?

Anxiety can present differently for different people but normally includes some level of nervousness, fear, and worry. It can occur spontaneously, in response to certain triggers, or loom constantly.

With anxiety comes a full host of physical pain can accompany it. Examples include body aches, headaches, digestion issues, fatigue, and other uncomfortable symptoms. Dealing with these physical issues day to day is often painful and sometimes debilitating. The daily toll can cause exhaustion, hopelessness and even lead to a host of spin-off issues such as depression and isolation.

Struggling with anxiety is a huge burden for many that causes a marked decrease in quality of life. Inhibition and apprehension often prevent people with anxiety from doing many of the things they love such as attending important events of loved ones and putting themselves out there socially. Furthermore, it can cause relationship issues such as an inability to connect fully with others or trust their partners fully. The good news is that healing and relief is possible through anxiety therapy.

The way that I provide anxiety therapy in NJ is by seeking to identify the root cause of the symptoms and through healing ensure that relief from the physical, mental and emotional is achieved.

Anxiety therapy has been proven to be extremely effective in the treatment of anxiety and its related issues. If you choose to work with me, I will assess your current level of anxiety and get you started right away with behavioral strategies so that you can experience immediate relief. Following that, I will determine treatment techniques that are most aligned with your personality and current needs. This is where you will see and experience a truly unique and tailored experience that can provide you with the support and relief you have been needing to alleviate your anxiety symptoms.

With these new coping skills you can begin to fight back against panic attacks and anxiety. These skills and our partnership will provide you with the stability and strength needed in order to delve deeper into the root causes of your anxiety. Addressing the root cause of your anxiety is what will allow for long-term relief.

Some common concerns about anxiety therapy, NJ..

Counseling can cost a lot of money and I’m not sure it will work for me.

I understand your trepidation. Counseling can be a costly and big investment. Further, many people, especially those who suffer from anxiety, have minds that go right to the most negative outcomes. What I can say to you is that counseling is an investment in yourself. It is an investment in making yourself a stronger, more confident, and brave person. A happy side effect of treatment oftentimes is professional and therefore financial gain. I can assure you that simply the act of trying out therapy will be a positive step on your journey to recovery no matter if it ends up being what resolves your anxiety completely or not.

I’m not in love with the idea of sharing everything that is going on with me with a complete stranger. 

This is certainly a reasonable feeling. The thought of sharing your deepest darkest secrets with a stranger can feel overwhelming, to say the least. What I would say is that I am here to work with you at your own pace. Our relationship will grow steadily over time. You will never be asked to share anything you feel uncomfortable sharing at any time. You may find yourself even wanting to share more in therapy as time goes on.

I am thinking/hoping that I am just going through a phase and that my anxiety will clear up on its own.

Everyone has different life circumstances and experiences with their anxiety. I think it is important to be realistic about your experience, what has triggered your anxiety and how likely it is that it will pass on its own. There are scales that determine the criteria for an anxiety disorder online. You can view one such scale at the following link:

https://psychology-tools.com/test/hamilton-anxiety-rating-scale

If your score meets the criteria for an anxiety disorder it is very likely that your anxiety will not simply clear up without a lifestyle change, therapy, or both.

Some common questions about anxiety therapy, NJ

  • Anxiety is a natural and often necessary emotional response to stress, uncertainty, or perceived danger. It involves feelings of worry, fear, or unease, typically in anticipation of a future event or situation. While anxiety can be a normal reaction to challenges or threats, when it becomes excessive, chronic, or uncontrollable, it can interfere with daily life and lead to anxiety disorders.

    Here’s an overview of anxiety:

    1. Physical Symptoms

    • Increased Heart Rate: Anxiety can trigger the "fight or flight" response, causing the heart to race.

    • Shortness of Breath: Breathing may become shallow or rapid.

    • Sweating: Perspiration increases as part of the body's stress response.

    • Trembling or Shaking: Muscles may tense up.

    • Dizziness or Lightheadedness: Anxiety can cause a sense of imbalance or faintness.

    • Muscle Tension: Prolonged anxiety can lead to tightness or pain in the muscles.

    • Gastrointestinal Distress: Nausea, stomach cramps, or a “knot” in the stomach are common.

    2. Emotional Symptoms

    • Excessive Worrying: Often over situations that are perceived as threatening or overwhelming.

    • Fear or Dread: A sense of impending doom or that something bad will happen, even if no immediate threat is present.

    • Restlessness or Irritability: Anxiety often causes difficulty relaxing or feeling at ease.

    • Nervousness: A pervasive sense of unease or apprehension.

    3. Cognitive Symptoms

    • Constant Overthinking: Thoughts may spiral, focusing on worst-case scenarios.

    • Difficulty Concentrating: Anxiety can make it hard to focus on tasks or be present in the moment.

    • Negative Thoughts: Often about self-doubt, inadequacy, or potential failure.

    • Memory Problems: Anxiety can impair memory and cognitive functioning.

    4. Behavioral Symptoms

    • Avoidance: People may avoid situations or places that make them feel anxious, which can lead to isolation or limiting life experiences.

    • Compulsive Behaviors: In some cases, people may engage in rituals or repetitive actions to alleviate anxiety.

    • Procrastination: Anxiety can make it hard to start or complete tasks, as the fear of failure or making mistakes becomes overwhelming.

    5. Types of Anxiety Disorders

    • Generalized Anxiety Disorder (GAD): Persistent, excessive worry about various aspects of life, such as work, health, or social situations.

    • Panic Disorder: Recurrent, unexpected panic attacks, which are intense surges of fear or discomfort, often accompanied by physical symptoms like chest pain or difficulty breathing.

    • Social Anxiety Disorder: Intense fear of being judged or embarrassed in social situations, leading to avoidance.

    • Specific Phobias: Intense fear of a specific object or situation (e.g., spiders, flying, heights).

    • Obsessive-Compulsive Disorder (OCD): Recurrent, unwanted thoughts (obsessions) and/or repetitive behaviors (compulsions) done to reduce anxiety.

    • Post-Traumatic Stress Disorder (PTSD): Anxiety triggered by a traumatic event, including flashbacks, nightmares, or hypervigilance.

    6. Causes of Anxiety

    • Genetic Factors: A family history of anxiety or other mental health conditions may increase the likelihood of developing anxiety.

    • Brain Chemistry: Imbalances in neurotransmitters (e.g., serotonin, dopamine) and brain structures can play a role.

    • Life Experiences: Trauma, abuse, or major life changes (e.g., death, divorce, or financial stress) can trigger anxiety.

    • Chronic Stress: Ongoing stressful situations, such as work pressure, relationship problems, or health concerns, can lead to anxiety.

    • Health Conditions: Certain medical conditions (e.g., heart disease, thyroid problems, or caffeine abuse) can mimic or contribute to anxiety.

  • Anxiety, particularly anxiety disorders, is typically not something that can be "cured" in the way that an infection might be cured. However, anxiety can be managed effectively so that it no longer interferes significantly with daily life, and many people experience a significant reduction in symptoms or learn to cope with anxiety in healthy ways.

    The term "cure" can be misleading because anxiety often involves a combination of psychological, biological, and environmental factors. However, with the right treatment, people can experience lasting improvements in how they manage and experience anxiety. Here’s a more detailed breakdown:

    1. Managing Anxiety: The Goal of Treatment

    • Managing symptoms: The goal for most people is to reduce the intensity and frequency of anxiety, so it becomes manageable and doesn't interfere with daily activities.

    • Learning coping skills: One of the key aspects of treatment is helping individuals develop healthier thought patterns and coping strategies, allowing them to handle anxiety-provoking situations more effectively.

    • Living a full life: Even if anxiety is present at times, people can learn how to live fulfilling, balanced lives without it overwhelming them.

    2. Treatment Approaches

    Psychotherapy

    • Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT): CBT is one of the most effective therapeutic approaches for treating anxiety. It helps individuals identify and challenge irrational or exaggerated fears, and replace them with more balanced, realistic thoughts. Over time, CBT can lead to long-term changes in how someone perceives and reacts to anxiety.

    • Exposure Therapy: This type of therapy involves gradual exposure to feared situations in a controlled and safe manner. Over time, this process can reduce the anxiety response.

    • Acceptance and Commitment Therapy (ACT): ACT teaches individuals how to accept their feelings of anxiety without judgment and commit to values-driven actions, even in the presence of discomfort.

    While CBT and exposure therapy can lead to significant improvement, some people may need ongoing therapy or occasional "tune-ups" to maintain the benefits.

    Medication

    • While medication isn't a cure, it can be a useful tool for managing symptoms, especially in cases of severe anxiety or when other treatments have not been effective. Medications like SSRIs (selective serotonin reuptake inhibitors) or benzodiazepines can help reduce the severity of anxiety symptoms.

    • However, many people find that medication alone is not enough and prefer to combine it with therapy for more sustainable results.

    Lifestyle Changes

    • Exercise: Regular physical activity can significantly reduce anxiety by promoting the release of endorphins (the body’s "feel-good" chemicals) and lowering cortisol (the stress hormone).

    • Nutrition: A healthy, balanced diet can stabilize mood and energy levels, reducing anxiety.

    • Mindfulness and Relaxation Techniques: Mindfulness meditation, deep breathing exercises, and progressive muscle relaxation help reduce stress and improve emotional regulation.

    3. Is Complete "Cure" Possible?

    • Chronic vs. Situational Anxiety: For some people, anxiety may be situational—triggered by specific events (e.g., public speaking, job interviews) or stressful periods in life (e.g., work pressures, family issues). In these cases, anxiety might subside after the stressor is removed or resolved. However, for individuals with chronic anxiety or anxiety disorders (such as Generalized Anxiety Disorder, Panic Disorder, or Social Anxiety Disorder), anxiety may be a long-term issue.

    • Ongoing Management: Many people with chronic anxiety can go on to lead very successful and fulfilling lives by learning how to manage their anxiety with therapy, lifestyle changes, and coping strategies. Some people may experience periods of anxiety-free living, but the goal is usually to help individuals cope with anxiety in healthy ways rather than eliminate it completely.

    • Prevention of Relapse: Even if anxiety symptoms diminish, there's always a chance they could return, particularly in the face of life stressors. That’s why ongoing maintenance (such as using coping skills learned in therapy or continuing mindfulness practices) is often emphasized.

    4. Anxiety as Part of Life

    • Anxiety is a natural human emotion. Everyone experiences some level of anxiety at different points in life. It becomes a problem when the anxiety is excessive, persistent, and disrupts daily life. The goal is not to eliminate anxiety altogether, but to make it manageable and reduce its interference with life.

    • For people who have learned to cope effectively, anxiety may still arise from time to time, but it’s less overwhelming and can be managed with techniques learned through therapy, mindfulness, and self-care practices.

    5. Factors That Influence Long-Term Success

    • Early Intervention: The earlier you address anxiety, the better the chances of managing it effectively. Early intervention often leads to faster relief and better long-term outcomes.

    • Support System: Having a strong support network of friends, family, or a therapist can be key to managing anxiety over time.

    • Commitment to Treatment: Therapy, especially CBT, requires effort and engagement. People who actively participate in treatment and practice learned techniques tend to experience more lasting improvements.

  • If anxiety is left untreated, it can have a significant impact on various aspects of a person's life, both mentally and physically. Over time, untreated anxiety can worsen, leading to more severe symptoms and potential long-term consequences. Here's what can happen if anxiety isn't addressed:

    1. Chronic Anxiety and Escalating Symptoms

    • Increased Frequency and Intensity: Anxiety that is not managed can become more frequent and intense, with symptoms spreading from one area of life to others (e.g., moving from worrying about work to having anxiety about social interactions or daily activities).

    • Physical Health Issues: Chronic anxiety can cause or exacerbate physical health problems. For example, it may lead to:

      • Heart problems: Constant stress can increase blood pressure and heart rate, potentially raising the risk of heart disease.

      • Gastrointestinal issues: Anxiety can lead to digestive problems such as irritable bowel syndrome (IBS), acid reflux, or nausea.

      • Sleep disturbances: Anxiety often causes insomnia or disrupted sleep patterns, which in turn can worsen anxiety and lead to fatigue, memory problems, and reduced cognitive function.

      • Muscle tension: Persistent anxiety can lead to muscle tightness, headaches, and chronic pain.

    2. Development of Other Mental Health Disorders

    • Depression: Anxiety and depression often go hand-in-hand. Prolonged anxiety can lead to feelings of hopelessness, sadness, or a lack of energy, which may contribute to the development of depression. This is known as "comorbidity," where two or more mental health conditions occur together.

    • Substance Abuse: To cope with persistent anxiety, some individuals may turn to alcohol, drugs, or other substances as a way to self-medicate. While this may provide temporary relief, it can lead to addiction and further exacerbate mental health problems.

    • Panic Disorder: Chronic anxiety can eventually lead to the development of panic disorder, characterized by frequent panic attacks. These are sudden, intense episodes of fear that come on without warning and can include symptoms like chest pain, difficulty breathing, and dizziness.

    3. Avoidance and Reduced Functioning

    • Avoidance of Activities: People with untreated anxiety often begin to avoid situations that trigger their anxiety. Over time, this can lead to avoidance of work, social interactions, or even everyday activities (such as going to the grocery store). This isolation can reinforce feelings of anxiety and lead to a narrowing of one’s life experiences.

    • Decreased Quality of Life: Anxiety can make it difficult to enjoy everyday activities, maintain relationships, or meet personal or professional goals. This can significantly lower one’s quality of life.

    • Impaired Relationships: Anxiety can make it difficult to communicate effectively or engage meaningfully with others. It can also lead to misunderstandings, particularly in social situations where excessive worrying or fear of judgment may cause tension in relationships. Over time, this can contribute to social isolation, strained friendships, or conflicts in romantic relationships.

    4. Impact on Work and Productivity

    • Decreased Performance: Anxiety can impair concentration, decision-making, and memory. This can lead to difficulties at work or school, lower productivity, and struggles to meet deadlines or complete tasks.

    • Increased Absenteeism: People with untreated anxiety may take more sick days, either due to the physical toll anxiety takes on the body (e.g., fatigue, gastrointestinal distress) or to avoid anxiety-provoking situations at work or school.

    • Job Loss or Career Stagnation: Over time, untreated anxiety can hinder career advancement, job retention, or overall professional growth. Avoidance of work-related tasks or a decline in work performance can result in disciplinary actions, job loss, or reduced job satisfaction.

    5. Increased Risk of Severe Panic Attacks

    • Panic Attacks: Untreated anxiety can increase the risk of experiencing panic attacks—sudden, overwhelming feelings of fear or discomfort that often come with physical symptoms like chest pain, sweating, shortness of breath, and dizziness. These attacks can feel terrifying and may be mistaken for medical emergencies, causing a cycle of fear and further anxiety about the possibility of another attack.

    • Agoraphobia: In some cases, the fear of having panic attacks in public places may lead to agoraphobia, a condition where individuals avoid situations or places where they feel trapped or unable to escape (e.g., crowded places, driving, or leaving the house). This can lead to severe social and occupational impairment.

    6. Decreased Physical Health Over Time

    • Weakened Immune System: Chronic anxiety can suppress the immune system, making a person more susceptible to infections, illnesses, and chronic conditions.

    • Chronic Stress: Anxiety often triggers the body’s stress response, leading to high levels of the stress hormone cortisol. Over time, prolonged stress and elevated cortisol levels can lead to a variety of health problems, such as:

      • Weight gain or difficulty losing weight

      • Sleep disturbances, leading to fatigue and mood instability

      • Increased inflammation in the body, which is associated with conditions like arthritis, heart disease, and other chronic diseases

    7. Lower Self-Esteem and Self-Doubt

    • Feelings of Inadequacy: Constant anxiety can cause a person to feel inadequate, excessively self-critical, or fear that others are judging them negatively. These feelings can lead to a lack of self-confidence and lower self-esteem.

    • Perfectionism: Anxiety can fuel perfectionistic tendencies, where an individual feels they must do everything flawlessly to avoid criticism or failure. This can lead to feelings of frustration, burnout, or resentment, further exacerbating the anxiety.

    8. Increased Vulnerability to Life Stressors

    • Reduced Resilience: When anxiety goes untreated, it can reduce a person’s ability to handle stress effectively. Life’s challenges—such as a job loss, a breakup, or financial difficulties—may feel even more overwhelming and harder to cope with.

    • Exacerbated by Major Life Events: Events like trauma, relationship problems, or financial struggles can make untreated anxiety worse, potentially triggering more severe symptoms, including panic attacks, depression, or extreme social withdrawal.

    9. Decreased Motivation and Hope

    • Hopelessness: Over time, untreated anxiety can lead to feelings of hopelessness or helplessness, where the person believes they will never be able to manage or overcome their anxiety. This can discourage them from seeking help or trying to improve their situation.

    • Reduced Ability to Enjoy Life: The constant state of worry, fear, and distress can drain the ability to feel joy, excitement, or fulfillment in life, leaving a person feeling emotionally exhausted and disengaged.

    The Importance of Seeking Treatment

    If anxiety is left untreated, it can significantly impact a person’s quality of life, health, and overall well-being. However, anxiety is highly treatable, and seeking help early can prevent many of these negative outcomes. Treatment options such as therapy (e.g., Cognitive Behavioral Therapy, mindfulness practices), medication (when appropriate), and lifestyle changes can help individuals manage anxiety and lead fulfilling, balanced lives.





ANXIETY THERAPY, NJ

I provide anxiety therapy services in the Bergen, Essex, Morris, Monmouth and Ocean county areas. I invite you to call me for a free 15-minute phone consultation for anxiety therapy, NJ to discuss any questions and concerns you may have about counseling.



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